Something happens in birth.
Something that you cannot see, cannot hear,
but you can feel it.
Birth is singular and physical, communal and deeply binding. It has carried us from the beginning of time and will carry us beyond. Birthing with the support of people you trust, in the safety of validation and your uninhibited answering to this calling, birth – this is when magic happens.
There is a space between. A raw place a fear a place of insecurity and doubt. This is real. What else is real is energy. Energy that binds. The ethereal connection between this space and the next, the energy that permeates the veil rendering it powerless, only for a moment. A two-way portal, lock and key held only by you and your baby.
Birth, I think, second only to death, asks for the whole of us. It asks for our vulnerability, our strength, our trust, our surrender.
And if we release to it, in return birth gifts us transcendence.
To move beyond our own perceived limits, to awaken dormant places deep beyond our reach from this side.
This is a place only you can go, only you can see.
This is only what can be felt by those who witness birth.
The language of birth is universal.
Medicated, unmedicated, at home or in the OR every, single, birthing person will utter this language from the core of themselves. It is a reclaiming of Self. The full realization of Self. That you, the co-creator, sustainer, keeper, birther, already embody what you need, instilled in you from each generation before you, the power and right to beckon this baby to yourself.
Sometimes we can forget, in the midst of it all that we-are-in-control. YOU are in control. Sometimes all that is needed is a quiet nudge, a subtle reminder that you, you are in control. You can go there, you CAN go there. You are already enough.
This is doula work for me. It is not to empower you, it is not to save you, it is not to center myself or replace your partner. It is to be that quiet voice, that gentle hand, that reminder that every moment leading up to this one has been stitched into existence, for you. Yes you can do this. You already are.
Doula work is to commune with, speak up for and to create space with and for, you. Doula work is to share knowledge, to collaborate with and to support without question or bias.
Doula work is to have you know that you are seen, heard and your experiences matters.
As a doula, I could tell you how to build your birth team, I could recommend places to birth, attendants to be with you. I could suggest curated playlists and what twinkle lights to purchase for your birth space. I could. And sometimes I do.
But what I so deeply yearn for is that you hear the whisper. The one that comes to you in the middle of the night. The one that reminds you, this is beyond birth, this is bigger than any other thing you have been invited to participate in. The whisper that calls you to release. That asks of you to get really honest with your whole self. That asks you to answer with reckless abandon this calling, this offering to experience fully, the gift of birth.
May I say, if I could be so bold? Shut it all out. The Googling, the review reading, the Amazon shopping, the listening to uninvited advice and stories, shut it all out. Quiet your senses, return to breath, return to baby, return to Self. Seek out that whisper. Welcome the discomfort of becoming absolutely clear of your wants, your needs, and your desires. And then, unapologetically demand it, fully and completely. This is your birth. This is your journey. Lean into the magic, go get your baby.
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